Personal Development Coaching|Feel Good HQ

What are we looking for in a book or CD by a famous personal development speaker? Are they going to speak words that we have never heard? Are they going to speak in some language that we are going to miraculously understand?

What makes a personal development speaker’s message so powerful is the ability for the speaker to relate with the audience. The speaker is able to tap into your emotions. The feelings the speaker describes are familiar. The speaker is able to create an emotional bridge with the audience.

You walk out of the seminar feeling good about yourself and your prospects in life. You feel you can really become successful in the path you have chosen.

Yes, I can do this!

Then what happens?

A few weeks later the emotions of the evening with the speaker, and the $195 dollar tuition fee to attend the seminar are history. It’s kind of like a fad diet. You lose a few pounds, stop losing, get discouraged, then gain back more than you lost!

How do we keep that message in us? We can buy the CD and listen to it every day on the way to work. That would help, wouldn’t it? We would feel good while we are in the car, at least.

But we would never have any mental down time as we are absorbing the materials while avoiding that &@%& changing lanes without a signal.

We NEED mental down time. We need to be bored once in a while. We can’t fill up every minute of our day with emotional rollercoaster rides, because at the end of the day, we are physically and emotionally drained. Then we think “why can’t this happen for me?”

The problem is in depending on somebody else to prepare you to be successful. Listening to the CD is no more than listening to one line of a song by America:

“Oz never did give nothing to the Tin Man, That he didn’t , didn’t already have”.

Ignoring the double negative, the message is that the Tin Man already had a heart, he just didn’t believe it. The same goes with the Scarecrow. He believed he didn’t have a brain, so he acted like he didn’t have a brain (know anyone like that?). Suddenly, he knew Pythagorean’s theory.

It was already in them!

And it is in YOU! Right Now, Right Here.

Okay… put the emotions aside, because we already know that emotions wane. What we need is to create a solid belief system within ourselves. We need to believe that we can achieve the goals we set for ourselves. After all, we have already done it at least once!

Huh?

Where are you in life right now? How did you get there? Did someone just pick you and put you into the circumstances that surround you at this moment?

We have created our own worlds. We have made decisions when we came to crossroads. I bet that you took the safe road, didn’t you? You needed to support your family and show your parents that you were smart enough to live on your own. You were afraid of that other path that had weeds all around it and had a dark, unknown future.

Stop it! Just stop it!

Here is what I ask my children when they get mad at each other:

“What is your perfect situation?”

The reason they are upset is that something didn’t match their expectations. Something didn’t go the way they wanted it to. That is what causes anger – a deficit in reality to ideal.

Before you can break reality, you have to know what your ideal situation is. No speaker is going to do that for you. No CD or book is going to be able to tap far enough into your emotions to know what you really want out of life.

Become your own personal development coach!!

Tell yourself what your goals are.

OUT LOUD!

Your subconscious needs to HEAR them. Your voice needs to say them. Your subconscious trusts your voice more than the guy on the CD. It has a better chance of believing you than that stranger. And your goals are too personal to be found on a CD.

You want to know one of mine? I want to own an old fashioned gas station that does full service – with uniforms and bowties and all. It’s not going to make me money, but it’s something I think society is missing.

Funny. Jim Rohn has never stated that goal on any of his CD’s. Neither has Brian Tracy or Denis Waitley. And reading my goals to me is FREE!

There are two phrases that I say every day, and I think Tony Robbins is credited with them. Write these out and put them where you can see them every day:

“Everything I need is already in me”

And

“Every day in every way, I am getting better and better”.

Your move.

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